Excuses…
How to approach Women?
You’ve started exchanging a few words: she’s sitting, and you’re standing in the aisle. Now, you need to find a way to sit next to her without scaring her off.
Remember, women can be like frightened birds and may fly away at the slightest disturbance!
Since there’s often background noise, lean over and say that you can’t hear her properly. Have her repeat a few times, and then ask for permission to sit next to her.
Alternatively, after a few minutes, mention that you have a pain in your knee, pretending you just injured yourself while playing sports. Ask for permission to sit down. If she has a kind heart, she won’t be able to refuse.
As an exercise, try to come up with other excuses. You could even squat down next to her, so you don’t have to search for a chair before she changes her mind!
Encourage her to talk about herself…
Yes, let her talk about herself, unless she’s very shy. Women love to talk about themselves. Be a good listener, pay close attention to her, and make her the center of your interest. Avoid glancing at other girls, drink in her words, and look into her eyes. Show that you’re a good listener by nodding your head regularly in agreement.
You can also repeat her words. For example:
She: “I’m in the fashion business.”
You: “The fashion business, really?”
She: “Yes, specializing in bags…”
You: “Bags, how original!”
She: “Absolutely, it’s doing really well.”
You: “I didn’t know bags were selling so well.”
And so on.
If needed, continue the conversation with other questions:
Do you have any hobbies?
How well do you know this city?
Are you studying?
What do you do for a living?
Avoid overly direct questions like:
Do you have a boyfriend?
What’s your job?
Where do you live?
Or silly questions like:
Do you live with your mother?
Do you have children?
How much do you earn?
Don’t talk about yourself. For example:
“I have a BMW.”
“A fantastic motorcycle, a Harley.”
PATIENCE! I know you want to show off, but let her discover these things little by little. She will appreciate your (false) modesty more!
Unless, of course, she asks you questions.
In the United States, it’s often the women who ask the questions. I’ve always been amazed that when you approach a beautiful woman, she asks you:
- Where do you live? Are you a homeowner?
- What’s your job?
- Are you a manager or the boss of the company?
- What kind of car do you drive?
- Do you have a boat?
- Do you have a plane? (the dream for getting laid!)
At least things are clear…
A friend of mine had the idea of printing out sheets with information like:
- I am a generous man.
- I live in…
- I’m married, but we have a separate room.
- My car is a XXX from such-and-such year.
- And I pay so much in taxes.
American women are practical and don’t want to invest unnecessarily in a relationship, even a casual one.
In fact, most of the time, they chase after handsome, muscular surfers for fun and successful men for “How to marry a millionaire?”
In their defense, life is not easy for women in California, and a woman who decides to share her life with a new partner doesn’t want to find herself months or years later burdened with his debts or problems (drugs, alcohol, etc.).
While she’s still beautiful and desirable, she wants to ensure a stable future for herself and her future family (in the USA, studies, medical care, insurances) are expensive, very expensive… So she can’t make mistakes and she have to find the right partner…
In France, things are more nuanced and above all, more sentimental.
Conclusion
When approaching a woman, it’s important to be genuine and respectful. Instead of focusing on making excuses, consider starting a conversation based on shared interests or observations. Here are some examples of conversation starters or ways to approach a woman without relying on excuses:
- Compliment or comment on something: Notice something about her that genuinely catches your attention, such as her outfit, accessory, or a book she’s reading. Offer a sincere compliment or initiate a conversation based on that observation.
- Ask for assistance or advice: Approach her by asking for help or advice related to the current situation or location. For example, if you’re at a bookstore, you can ask for a recommendation on a good book in that genre.
- Engage in a shared activity: If you’re in a setting where there’s a common activity or interest, like a class, workshop, or event, you can strike up a conversation by discussing the activity or asking for her opinion about it.
- Make an introduction through mutual acquaintances: If you have a mutual friend or acquaintance, you can use that connection as an icebreaker. Mention how you know the person or ask if she knows them too.
- Comment on the environment or event: Share your observations or thoughts about the environment or event you’re both attending. It could be about the music, the ambiance, or anything interesting happening around you.
- Offer assistance or a small favor: If you notice she could use some help, such as carrying something or reaching for an item, offer your assistance politely. It can open up an opportunity for conversation and show your willingness to be helpful.
Remember, the key is to approach her with confidence, respect, and genuine interest. Be yourself and engage in a conversation that allows both of you to get to know each other better. Excuses can often come across as insincere, so it’s better to focus on creating a genuine connection.
